How to find out if your partner is cheating online

Cyber cheating is still considered a form of infidelity, and below we share three ways you can find out whether your partner is cheating on you online.


Cheating is one of the cardinal wrongs in any relationship. One of the latest forms of cheating that has been on the rise, especially since the recent COVID-19 pandemic is cyber cheating.

As the term suggests, it refers to infidelity that takes place through social media or online platforms. This relation can be emotional or include the sharing of nudes and video calls.

Cyber cheating can be just as harmful as any other form of cheating as it breaks the trust in a relationship. Below we share three ways to help you find out if your partner is cheating on you online.

Why cyber cheating?

Commonly, physically cheating on your partner is considered the worst form of cheating. However, in recent years, even emotional cheating is considered betrayal.

Cyber cheating, to some extent, mirrors emotional cheating as you similarly withdraw from reality to escape into the online relationship. However, there might be a reason for this, such as:

– Trouble in the current relationship

– A lack of communication and intimacy in the current relationship

– Seeking a confidence boost externally

– They enjoy the creation of the fantasy with the “other person”

How to find out if your partner is cheating online

Before detailing ways of confirming whether or not your partner is cheating on you online, it is important to discuss some of the common signs that might reveal themselves before you need to come up with plans to confirm your suspicions about your partner.

Some of these signs are:

– They start becoming distant and are always on their phone

– They are secretive and defensive when the matter of their distance and their constant phone or laptop usage is brought up

– They change their passwords if you knew them before, and never leave their phone alone with you in a room

– You do not have access to their personal laptop, or the desktop is moved to a more secluded area in the house

– The same name(s) pop(s) up frequently, which mostly results in them smiling at their phone mysteriously

But the biggest sign is your gut feeling or intuition. Arguably, most people, when they look back on when they found out their partner was cheating, always highlight how before it was confirmed, their gut feeling or intuition already told them that something was wrong.

Below are three surefire ways to find out if your partner is cyber cheating.

1. Create a fake social media persona

One of the best ways to confirm if your partner is cyber cheating is by creating a fake online persona, especially if you know the type of person your partner will like if they are cheating, and by giving the person behind the account all the attributes you think he will like.

Thereafter, you bait your partner online whether by matching with them on dating sites or following them on social media to see if they will bite the bait.

An unethical approach, but one that is sometimes used, is entrusting your friend with the responsibility of being the catfish. However, this has often resulted in the partner’s infidelity, as well as the loss of the friendship, so be warned or just do it yourself.

2. Clone his phone

One way to find out if your partner is cyber cheating, especially if it seems that their primary device is the phone they are using, is to clone their phone.

This will allow you to see all their actions on their phone. Cloning someone’s cell phone is as easy as downloading an app, installing it and requiring some time with your partner’s phone in order to complete the process.

Whether it is an Android mobile or iOS mobile, there are apps compatible with both that will allow you to see what your partner is doing on their phone. More information can be found here.

3. Ask them

While this sounds redundant because it is likely that your partner will lie as their reflexive response, asking your partner is attributed to the point that your intuition does not lie.

Therefore, asking your partner pointedly whether they are being unfaithful, allows you to gauge their response, body language, and facial expressions.

Assuming you know your partner well enough to know when they are lying, this will provide you with the knowledge of whether or not they are lying.

The rest is for you to decide to trust your gut, or to further seek irrefutable evidence through the aforementioned hacks.

Final thoughts

Cyber cheating is no different from any other form of cheating, as it eats away at the trust and level of communication shared by a couple. Therefore, finding out sooner rather than later is better.

While there are tricks and hacks to find out whether or not your partner is cyber cheating, it would go amiss not to emphasise that any partner usually knows before the evidence presents itself as their intuition will tell them.

The rest is merely seeking confirmation.